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Key Practise 1: 1-2-3 or Coming Home To Who I Am 0/3
This practise is the foundation of what Zen Coaching is all about. Saying yes to my experience is coming home to who I am.
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Key Practice 2: the A-B-C of Relating 0/5
This practice supports us in resting with both ourselves and others when relating, and connect heart to heart in any situation that may occur. We live in a world where many of us focus more on getting heard and on offering our well-intended comments and advice, and spend less time, energy and focus on truly listening to ourselves and others. When we focus most of our energy on being understood and heard by others, we tend to totally forget or be superficial in our listening. We then tend to listen more to our thoughts and interpretations of what the other is saying rather than to be really there for what is alive in the other in this moment. This practice is an invitation to become a listener.
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Heart-to-heart communication: This practice is an invitation to become a listener.Lecture2.1
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A – First, to connect with myselfLecture2.2
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B – Second, to see, hear and understand the otherLecture2.3
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C – And only then, thirdly, seek to be understood, seen and heard by the other.Lecture2.4
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A-B-C keeps us anchored in restful awareness while relating.Lecture2.5
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Key Practice 3: See – Be – Go 0/3
We see where we are and where we would like to go, we allow ourselves to fall or relax into ourselves, into being or awareness, and we allow action to occur spontaneously from being.
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BONUS: The practise of Reframing 0/7
Problems don´t exist in the world, but in our minds A problem exists in our mind, as an interpretation of our situation or our experience. Problems come into existence through negative thinking about our situation and our experiences. A problem is seeing a situation or an experience in the light of what is wrong and bad about it. An issue thought about as a problem perpetuates the issue as a problem.
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Reframing a problem into a heart-opening takes only three simple stepsLecture4.1
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Step 1: Describe the ProblemLecture4.2
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Step 2: Connect with your longingLecture4.3
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Step 3: Allow and experience the longingLecture4.4
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Longings in disguiseLecture4.5
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Feeling into our longingsLecture4.6
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Reframing as a way of livingLecture4.7
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A – First, to connect with myself
Seek first to see, hear, feel and understand my own reaction to whatever the other is saying or doing.
This step represents self-empathy; allowing myself to experience the feelings and needs that are alive in me in this moment. It means using 1-2-3 on myself, noticing and allowing what is happening in my mind and body, choosing to rest into what is instead of reacting, indulging or suppressing my experience.
From this deeper connection with myself I can listen and act – respond – spontaneously and creatively in a supportive way in the situation.