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Key Practise 1: 1-2-3 or Coming Home To Who I Am 0/3
This practise is the foundation of what Zen Coaching is all about. Saying yes to my experience is coming home to who I am.
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Key Practice 2: the A-B-C of Relating 0/5
This practice supports us in resting with both ourselves and others when relating, and connect heart to heart in any situation that may occur. We live in a world where many of us focus more on getting heard and on offering our well-intended comments and advice, and spend less time, energy and focus on truly listening to ourselves and others. When we focus most of our energy on being understood and heard by others, we tend to totally forget or be superficial in our listening. We then tend to listen more to our thoughts and interpretations of what the other is saying rather than to be really there for what is alive in the other in this moment. This practice is an invitation to become a listener.
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Heart-to-heart communication: This practice is an invitation to become a listener.Lecture2.1
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A – First, to connect with myselfLecture2.2
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B – Second, to see, hear and understand the otherLecture2.3
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C – And only then, thirdly, seek to be understood, seen and heard by the other.Lecture2.4
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A-B-C keeps us anchored in restful awareness while relating.Lecture2.5
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Key Practice 3: See – Be – Go 0/3
We see where we are and where we would like to go, we allow ourselves to fall or relax into ourselves, into being or awareness, and we allow action to occur spontaneously from being.
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BONUS: The practise of Reframing 0/7
Problems don´t exist in the world, but in our minds A problem exists in our mind, as an interpretation of our situation or our experience. Problems come into existence through negative thinking about our situation and our experiences. A problem is seeing a situation or an experience in the light of what is wrong and bad about it. An issue thought about as a problem perpetuates the issue as a problem.
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Reframing a problem into a heart-opening takes only three simple stepsLecture4.1
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Step 1: Describe the ProblemLecture4.2
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Step 2: Connect with your longingLecture4.3
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Step 3: Allow and experience the longingLecture4.4
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Longings in disguiseLecture4.5
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Feeling into our longingsLecture4.6
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Reframing as a way of livingLecture4.7
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Longings in disguise
We can easily reframe our problems into possibilities when we realise that problems are longings in disguise.
A problem is a negative description of how we experience something. A longing, in contrast, is a positive quality of the heart that we are, for the moment, not in touch with. By acknowledging our longing, we automatically start reconnecting with the quality we long for – which is always available, in our heart, here and now. At a deeper level, we are what we seek.
Let us take an example: Let’s say I am in a situation that I describe in this way to myself and/or to others: “I feel sad and empty, my life is meaningless, and I hate being in this state, I want to feel good”. This is my situation described as a problem.
I can reframe this situation – see it in a different way, and thus experience it differently – by describing it positively, in terms of what I long for. In the example above, this could look like this: “I feel sad and empty, and I long for meaning, for inspiration, and for self-love.”
By allowing myself to feel my feelings and sink into my longings, I will experience how my heart – mysteriously, but very naturally – opens into the qualities I long for.