09 Oct

Key Practice 2: the A-B-C of Relating

Heart-to-heart communication:  

This practice supports us in resting with both ourselves and others when relating, and connect heart to heart in any situation that may occur.

We live in a world where many of us focus more on getting heard and on offering our well-intended comments and advice, and spend less time, energy and focus on truly listening to ourselves and others.

When we focus most of our energy on being understood and heard by others, we tend to totally forget or be superficial in our listening. We then tend to listen more to our thoughts and interpretations of what the other is saying rather than to be really there for what is alive in the other in this moment.

This practice is an invitation to become a listener.

The A-B-C practice is communicating with the following three intentions in this below order:

The A-B-C of communication can help resolve most of our relationship difficulties, and help create the kind of heart connection we long for in every moment when relating with others.

The A-B-C of communication can help resolve most of our relationship difficulties, and help create the kind of heart connection we long for in every moment when relating with others.

A-B-C keeps us anchored in restful awareness while relating. It helps us avoid the traps of victimhood, criticism, blame, expectations and demands that often infect our relating with each other. It enables mutual gift-giving and enrichment of life to take place as a dance between us, through the unique power of communication that we are gifted with.

In this way relating can be a celebration of our power to enrich each other´s life. Rather than relating being a struggle to get our sense of lack and limitations compensated for through others, or avoided through avoidance of others.